Back once again with the ill behaviour.

 Yea, yea, yea.

I know. I have left you alone again for a good few years and just like Gavin and Stacey I keep coming back. Look at all of you, my my how have you all grown!

So, what's new with me? Well, obviously not being content with the lack of sleep that one child gives you me and SWIMBO have decided to have another one. I mean we haven't just decided, that particular decision took place over a year ago, and since child number 2 is now 8 months old it is a little late to get a refund. All is going well, and by well I mean that there is no sleep happening in the house. 

Work-wise I have changed career - now in IT. It is fun and so much less stressful than my current job. 

I just thought I would up-date this little bad boy, let the internet know that I am indeed still alive. Who knows, I might come back a bit more often, or you might not hear from me for another 4 years. 

Either way, take care and be wonderful. 

T

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Well Well Well

Good evening.

Lookie here...

The matrix is being remade and just like that I am back. I'm not sure how much longer for, if this is just a flash in the pan or if I will post more often. All I know is that 9 years ago writing this really helped me, to do what I don't know. 

A LOT has changed. I am married, not to anyone that I have previously mentioned in this blog. In fact, everyone I have mentioned in this blog before I now no longer keep on touch with. Hey ho, not sure exactly what that says about my inability to keep friends or to leave the past in the past, I will leave that to you to decide.

I am now a dad. And, like many first time dad's, literally just finding my feet one day at a time. I live in a totally different part of the country also. All of these changes I am sure that I will mention if I decide to keep up my rekindled live of blogging.

What I thought would be cool is to do the 30 day song challenge again and see if anything has changed in the 9 years since I previously did it. I have included my previous answers so that you can see how my tastes have changed.

So grab a cuppa, open up the biscuit tin and here we go.....

Day 01 – Your favorite song

It still is, and probably always will be

2021- Frank Turner & The Sleeping Souls - I Knew Prufrock Before He Got Famous.

2012- Frank Turner & The Sleeping Souls - I Knew Prufrock Before He Got Famous.

Day 02 – Your least favorite song

This might make me sound really twattish (yea it's a word),  but I genuinely don't have a least favourite song. Yea, I know that's a cop out. Okay how about

2021 - Kate Bush - Wuthering Heights

2012 - UB40 - Red, Red, Wine.

Day 03 – A song that makes you happy 

Okay, first entry inspired by my darling wife

2022 - Hall & Oates - You Make My Dreams

2012 - The Boo Radleys - Wake Up Boo!

Day 04 – A song that makes you sad 

Yea, it's been attached to a lot of sadness in my family. Will never change this.

2021 - Simon & Garfunkle - Bridge Over Troubled Water

2012 - Simon & Garfunkle - Bridge Over Troubled Water

Day 05 – A song that reminds you of someone

It is the song I song the most. My idea of a nursery rhyme

2021 - The Wurzels - The Blackbird Song

2012 - The Darkness - I Believe In A Thing Called Love

Day 06 – A song that reminds of you of somewhere

This is what I live about music, it can transport you somewhere in your past and all those memories come.flodding back. This one is from driving back from my parents 25th wedding anniversary in Devon. The year is 2005. I am in my silver fiat cinquento (my first car). My sister and her 2 friends are in the car. It's a hot September day and we played the balls out of this song

2021 - B*Witched - C'est La Vie

2012 - Peter Andre - Mysterious girl

Day 07– A song that reminds you of a certain event

In the years that have past since I last blogged o worked as a sound engineer at a hotel. I was at this one hotel for about 5 years. I was a sound engineer because I can't sing. Fact. On my last night I rapped during the instrumental of this song. Can't hear it now without thinking about this moment.

2021 - Edwin Starr - H.A.P.P.Y Radio

2012 - James Blunt - Wisemen

Day 08 – A song that you know all the words to

I not only know all the words to this. I re-wrote them for my wedding.

2021 - Hamilton Spund Track - Alexander Hamilton

2012 - Meatloaf - Bat Out Of Hell

Day 09 – A song that you can dance to

I can't dance, but I have this 'thing'. And it hasn't left me in 9 years.

2021 - Natalie Imbruglia - Torn

2012 - Natalie Imbruglia - Torn

Day 10 – A song that makes you fall asleep

I am ashamed to say, I don't fall asleep to music at all now. I suppose my answer from the past would still send me to sleep, such a beautiful song.

2021 - Damien Rice - The Blower's Daughter.

2012 - Damien Rice - The Blower's Daughter.

Day 11 – A song from your favorite band

Controversy klaxon!!!

My favourite band has actually changed. It's now the Levellers, I still love Frank. But the Lev's man . . . Now this song is not necessary my favourite song from them. I do just love it though.

2021 - The Levellers - Liberty Song

2012 - Frank Turner & The Sleeping Souls - If I Ever Stray.

Day 12 – A song from a band you hate

I don't hate man! Honestly, not answering this.

2012 - Jaguar Skills - 9 Levels Of Power

Day 13 – A song that is a guilty pleasure

 I fucking love this song. And I will fight anyone that disagrees

2021 - Beyonce - Love On Top

2012 - Jedward - Under Pressure (Ice Ice Baby)

Day 14 – A song that no one would expect you to love

It's a bit hard to answer this, because I don't know what people expect me to love. If we are talking about the people that I speak to on a daily basis, I'm going with this

2021 - Buddy Holly - Rave On

2012 - Eminen - The Real Slim Shady

Day 15 – A song that describes you

Not me. Bit of you know, you know.

2021 - Goo Goo Dolls - Iris

2012 - Frank Turner & The Sleeping Souls - Photosynthesis

Day 16 – A song that you used to love but now hate

Yea, same reasons as before, but the hate has dimmed a lot.

2021 - Extreme - More Than Words

2012 - Extreme - More Than Words

Day 17 – A song that you hear often on the radio

Right here, right now this 

2021 - Shakin Stevens - Merry Christmas

2012 - Jools Holland - Enjoy Yourself (It's Later That You Think)

Day 18 – A song that you wish you heard on the radio

Really digging this lot at the moment. The need to be heard! 

2021 - Punk Rock Factory - Blinding Lights

2012 - Frank Turner & The Sleeping Souls - Thatcher Fucked The Kids

Day 19 – A song from your favorite album

 The best song, on the best album. Fact

2021 - The Beatles - A Day In The Life

2012 - Oasis - Don't Look Back In Anger

Day 20 – A song that you listen to when you’re angry

Tough one. Probably some Punk Rock would usually be my go-to. 

2021 - The Offspring - The Kids Aren't Alright

2012 - Afro Celt Soundsystem - Mojave

Day 21 – A song that you listen to when you’re happy

This is just amazing. I love the trumpets

2021 - Reel Big Fish - Take On Me

2012 - Bruce Springsteen - Born To Run

Day 22 – A song that you listen to when you’re sad 

Yup, some thing's never change.

2021 - The Killers - Smile Like You Mean It.

2012 - The Killers - Smile Like You Mean It.

Day 23 – A song that you want to play at your wedding 

Well the song(s) that WERE played aty wedding were these

2021 - The Beach Boys - God Only Knows

2021 - Philip Oakey & Giorgio Moroder - Together In Electric Dreams

2012 - Steve Harley - Make Me Smile (Come Up And See Me)

Day 24 – A song that you want to play at your funeral

Yea, this is still the same

2021 - Flogging Molly - If I ever Leave This World Alive

2012 - Flogging Molly - If I ever Leave This World Alive

Day 25 – A song that makes you laugh

One of the best comedy songs ever

2021 - Tim Minchin - Thank You God

2012 - The Toy Dolls - Nelly The Elephant

Day 26 – A song that you can play on an instrument

My musical career is still waiting to flourish!

2012 - Last Of The Summer Wine (Theme)

2012 - Last Of The Summer Wine (Theme)

Day 27 – A song that you wish you could play

I still long to be able to 'shred' a guitar like this

2021 - Lynard Skynard - Free Bird

2012 -Lynard Skynard - Free Bird

Day 28 – A song that makes you feel guilty

Guilty? What a totally shit question. I have my own question

Day 28.5 A Song you have recently discovered?

I will never stop discoving The Beatles

2021 - The Beatles - In My Life

2012 - Jon Bon Jovi - Always

Day 29 – A song from your childhood

So unless I invert time travel my child hood wond change.

2021 - Baddiel & Skinner & The Lightning Seeds - Three Lions.

2012 - Baddiel & Skinner & The Lightning Seeds - Three Lions.

Day 30 – Your favorite song at this time last year

I honestly don't know this. I will just chuck another favourite of mine like last time I did this.

2021 - The Killers - All These Things I've Done

2012 - Don Mclean - American Pie

Well there we have it. Hope you enjoyed. Might a see you again soon.

Take care and be wonderful to each other.

T

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Hanging!

So I'm hungover! 

I have started a new chapter in my life I suppose. I have moved across the country to start a new job. Which means new people, new friends and a new place to live. It's going pretty well so far. It's amazing how you can get a first impression from someone just from, well, first impressions. 

Most of my work colleagues here seem okay. Obviously there are some who I get on better with than others. It also helps that there is one particularly attractive member of the team!

T

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Karma, Karma Chameleon

Well well well.

So yea, right, I don't believe in Karma. I really don't. I like to have belief in the fact that in my own life I have total and utter control. I don't think that by me being a total dick in the past will affect what happens to me in the future. Tonight, however, something happened that made me question my judgement somewhat.

So you all know the story that has been going on with me and 'that girl'. Well tonight I got a message on facebook from her now boyfriend asking me if we were talking, as friends. Well we are, I know, but she is a actually a really sound girl and I like having her as a friend. But I didn't tell him that, its not my place to say. He got really defensive and totally possessive. Really showed his true colours. Those colours being that he is infact a total and utter twat.

I did show her the conversation that me and him had, and to be honest, that was a little dickish of me, but hey, come on, throughout all of this I have been the good guy, I have bitten my tongue more times than I can remember, I deserve to be a twat sometimes. And maybe, just maybe she might be realising that she has made a massive error. I dunno, will just have to see what the future holds.

So karma? Does it exist?

No, he is just a wanker who will always be one and showed it tonight.

Take care and be wonderful to each other.

T
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Block Buster!

Hey hey hey!!!

So I did it. Today I finally blocked the girl who has made my life hell for the past week. I have blocked her number so I can't get any texts of calls from her. She has totally fucked me over and lost all my respect from me for the way she handled the situation. I did send her a rather angry and aggressive text but I needed to. I feel better for it. It will be a bit of time to get over her, she was a massive part of my life and so I feel a little bit empty now. I will bounce back. I have some exciting things happening in the next 2 weeks so just gotta concentrate on that and it will all be good.

Right, sorry for the short post, but mother has just asked for a cuppa tea, and being the amazing son that I am I will oblige. Just wanted to keep you all informed as to whats 'going down'.

Peace out, take care and . . . . .

be WONDERFUL to each other.

T
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Privacy or Personal.

So I'm back.

You can always tell when I feeling emotional because I blog more.

As the keen-eyed lot of you would have noticed I have changed the domain name. From toowol - 2wol. See what I did there? Great isn't it?

Anyway the reason behind such a dramatic and clever change of name is thus . . . . . .

The girl that I wrote about in my 'Men from mars' post, remember her? Well today it has kinda all sorted itself. Not in a good way but I can finally see where this is all going now. So, I decided this morning that we could still be friends. I mean she is a awesome woman, I got on with her really well and she makes me happy. So it seemed obvious? Right? I decided that I would send a message to her new/old bloke. Now I can already hear the groans around the room but hear me out. In fact, better that than just read what I said to him.



Hi


So you probably hate me at the moment. That’s understandable. I don’t hate you. I really don’t. You probably don’t need me to say this to you but I feel I have to, so please, hear me out afterwards you can ignore me and I wont contact you again.


Please look after her. Please treat her the way that she deserves to be treated. Please care for her with all your heart. She is an amazing woman. Like I said, I know that you already know this stuff and I am preaching to the converted here. Back off sometimes though. No one can fault how much you care for her, that is plain for all to see, but sometimes she needs her space. She has so much potential that she needs the space to spread her wings. This doesn’t mean that you can’t love her any less, not at all. Just let her fly and she will carry you along for the flight, she is that kind of person, and the journey will be amazing.


I really do wish you two all the very best for the future. It’s kind of weird sending this message to you but I care for her too, and if you make her happy, then I am happy too.


I am sorry for any pain I caused you. That really wasn’t on purpose. I never wanted any of this to happen.


Take care of her and I wish you both all the happiness in the future.


T


Even I was impressed with that message, I mean every word of what I said there. But as the day drew on (and as I washing my car) I came to realise that I actually haven't had my chance to put my side of the story across. I have been unable to phone her to talk about this because he has always been in the room, or she has had family over or some other feeble reason. This made me think IT'S UNFAIR! I don't mean to sound like a stroppy teenager at all. That is not my intent. Looking at the facts there is no denying that it is unfair, if it had been a trail in a courtroom the Defence has had no chance to make his case. Tap Tap Tap "GUILTY"

Because of this I have decided to not talk to her and not be friends. I also feel that I was actually so good to her (I may not have been, but I honestly feel like I done all I could to make it work) that the only way she will truly miss me and see that is by not having me in her life. I suppose she is trying to cherry pick the best parts of both men to make herself truly happy. Well I am sorry sweetheart, life don't work that way. Unless you are on that god awful programme Geordie Shore, then you have your cherry, then the cake, then someone else's cake, then you embarrass yourself on national T.V, then poison me with your eyes! - Yea I got issues!

Back to ME and MY life. She still wants to be my friend and when I said that I wasn't going to talk to her anymore, she said that she would still read this. THAT is why I have had to change the domain name.

So what is the lesson that we have all learnt here today? I am not going to start censoring this blog. This is my escape from the real world. I suppose look at it this way - I will not be bothered if someone that I know goes out of their way to find this blog. If they have put in that much effort - bloody hell, give them something to read, but I will not openly advertise the address. Thats a good little deal eh?


Right, good to have you back in these surroundings!


Take care and be wonderful to each other.

T

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What team do you support? . . . . . . and why?

Ask someone who is passionate about sport what their favourite sports team is and I reckon that they will reply in a instant. It will be mostly the 'big' teams in that sport (Man United's, New York Yankee's, Barcelona, L.A. Lakers, New England Patriots) or the local team to where that person is from. Sometimes you will get an unusual answer but this is rare.

I went travelling for 4 1/2 months (blog is still online www.tomswayround.blogspot.co.uk - can't miss an opportunity to plug my other blog) and whilst I was travelling I met so many people from so many different parts of the world. When talking sport you inevitably get to the question "Whats your favourite team?". Every time I got the answer as 'Man United' or 'New England Patriots'. A part of me died, and heres why. . . . . .

I am not a fan of any 'Big' teams. The teams I support are - Tottenham Hotspur (Football), St. Louis Rams (American Football) & Colorado Rockies (Baseball). Now throughout time my teams have seen success, but that was in the past. You don't see too many little kids asking for a Spurs shirt " . . . Because they are good!" As such I find it hard to talk about other peoples sports teams, there are just less of us 'non-big' teams.

So I always ask the question "Why do you support them?" and this is the best question to ask. Normally there are a few different responses:

Because they are good!
I like the honesty here. True it does make you a glory hunter and as such you will never now the true passion of grabbing a last minute winner against a side 3 leagues below you in a scrappy match.

Because they are my local team.
Now some of you may be aware of my non-nationalistic views. This boils down to location too. I don't believe that you should just support a team because you were born in/near there. HOWEVER, thank god not the whole population thinks like me, because who else would support the likes of Hartlepool Town F.C. & the Cleveland Browns?

Because I went to see them once.
Not as stupid as it may sound. I have close experience of this option. I support the Colorado Rockies purely because I saw them twice in the States - and didn't even plan it! One of my mates saw the 49ers and that made him a 49er fan (and a idiot - go Rams!)

Because my family support them.
Case in point here. I support spurs because my dad does. Pure and simple. He supports them because he "liked the way they played". It was 1963, he was a glory hunter! Shame I can't say the same now days. I did have one moment of madness. It was 1991, Spurs were playing Arsenal in the F.A. Cup semi final. My dad said that if Spurs won he would buy me a shirt. So obviously, bribed into supporting the men in white I was cheering every goal, every challenge. We duly won and so off to the local sports shop we trotted (Six Way Sports!). Once we were there we found a Spurs shirt, it was right next to the Man Utd one. I pleaded with my Dad to buy me the Man Utd one because he said he would buy me a shirt, did say what team . . . . he saw the light and got me the Spurs one. The reason I was so desperate to enter hell and meet the Red Devil

Because all my friends supports them.
Peer pressure at its best here. Not sure if anybody has actually ever admitted to this being the reason thou!

They play in nice colours.
Yup, great reason! The reason that I am getting into Aussie rules football is this reason. The Hawthorn Hawks play in Yellow & Chocolate stripes! How cool is that? They are in the grand final this year, but to me it wouldn't matter if they were shit - so I am not a glory hunter.

I picked it out of a hat.
I will pick my team that I will support at the world cup next year out of a hat. I used to follow England, but I got so fed up with them that I resigned. I am now "nationless". So I will find a new homeland next year. I will fully get into the feel of my respected nation, get a shirt, learn some useful phrases etc. etc.

There is a chance that I will, of course, pull out England and find myself in some kind of 'groundhog day' nightmare where I can't escape incredibly high expectations mixed with mundane and dreary football and a spash of tabloids trying to derail the campaign.

I have issues!

Take care, thanks for reading and be wonderful to each other.

T
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