Block Buster!

Hey hey hey!!!

So I did it. Today I finally blocked the girl who has made my life hell for the past week. I have blocked her number so I can't get any texts of calls from her. She has totally fucked me over and lost all my respect from me for the way she handled the situation. I did send her a rather angry and aggressive text but I needed to. I feel better for it. It will be a bit of time to get over her, she was a massive part of my life and so I feel a little bit empty now. I will bounce back. I have some exciting things happening in the next 2 weeks so just gotta concentrate on that and it will all be good.

Right, sorry for the short post, but mother has just asked for a cuppa tea, and being the amazing son that I am I will oblige. Just wanted to keep you all informed as to whats 'going down'.

Peace out, take care and . . . . .

be WONDERFUL to each other.

T
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Privacy or Personal.

So I'm back.

You can always tell when I feeling emotional because I blog more.

As the keen-eyed lot of you would have noticed I have changed the domain name. From toowol - 2wol. See what I did there? Great isn't it?

Anyway the reason behind such a dramatic and clever change of name is thus . . . . . .

The girl that I wrote about in my 'Men from mars' post, remember her? Well today it has kinda all sorted itself. Not in a good way but I can finally see where this is all going now. So, I decided this morning that we could still be friends. I mean she is a awesome woman, I got on with her really well and she makes me happy. So it seemed obvious? Right? I decided that I would send a message to her new/old bloke. Now I can already hear the groans around the room but hear me out. In fact, better that than just read what I said to him.



Hi


So you probably hate me at the moment. That’s understandable. I don’t hate you. I really don’t. You probably don’t need me to say this to you but I feel I have to, so please, hear me out afterwards you can ignore me and I wont contact you again.


Please look after her. Please treat her the way that she deserves to be treated. Please care for her with all your heart. She is an amazing woman. Like I said, I know that you already know this stuff and I am preaching to the converted here. Back off sometimes though. No one can fault how much you care for her, that is plain for all to see, but sometimes she needs her space. She has so much potential that she needs the space to spread her wings. This doesn’t mean that you can’t love her any less, not at all. Just let her fly and she will carry you along for the flight, she is that kind of person, and the journey will be amazing.


I really do wish you two all the very best for the future. It’s kind of weird sending this message to you but I care for her too, and if you make her happy, then I am happy too.


I am sorry for any pain I caused you. That really wasn’t on purpose. I never wanted any of this to happen.


Take care of her and I wish you both all the happiness in the future.


T


Even I was impressed with that message, I mean every word of what I said there. But as the day drew on (and as I washing my car) I came to realise that I actually haven't had my chance to put my side of the story across. I have been unable to phone her to talk about this because he has always been in the room, or she has had family over or some other feeble reason. This made me think IT'S UNFAIR! I don't mean to sound like a stroppy teenager at all. That is not my intent. Looking at the facts there is no denying that it is unfair, if it had been a trail in a courtroom the Defence has had no chance to make his case. Tap Tap Tap "GUILTY"

Because of this I have decided to not talk to her and not be friends. I also feel that I was actually so good to her (I may not have been, but I honestly feel like I done all I could to make it work) that the only way she will truly miss me and see that is by not having me in her life. I suppose she is trying to cherry pick the best parts of both men to make herself truly happy. Well I am sorry sweetheart, life don't work that way. Unless you are on that god awful programme Geordie Shore, then you have your cherry, then the cake, then someone else's cake, then you embarrass yourself on national T.V, then poison me with your eyes! - Yea I got issues!

Back to ME and MY life. She still wants to be my friend and when I said that I wasn't going to talk to her anymore, she said that she would still read this. THAT is why I have had to change the domain name.

So what is the lesson that we have all learnt here today? I am not going to start censoring this blog. This is my escape from the real world. I suppose look at it this way - I will not be bothered if someone that I know goes out of their way to find this blog. If they have put in that much effort - bloody hell, give them something to read, but I will not openly advertise the address. Thats a good little deal eh?


Right, good to have you back in these surroundings!


Take care and be wonderful to each other.

T

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What team do you support? . . . . . . and why?

Ask someone who is passionate about sport what their favourite sports team is and I reckon that they will reply in a instant. It will be mostly the 'big' teams in that sport (Man United's, New York Yankee's, Barcelona, L.A. Lakers, New England Patriots) or the local team to where that person is from. Sometimes you will get an unusual answer but this is rare.

I went travelling for 4 1/2 months (blog is still online www.tomswayround.blogspot.co.uk - can't miss an opportunity to plug my other blog) and whilst I was travelling I met so many people from so many different parts of the world. When talking sport you inevitably get to the question "Whats your favourite team?". Every time I got the answer as 'Man United' or 'New England Patriots'. A part of me died, and heres why. . . . . .

I am not a fan of any 'Big' teams. The teams I support are - Tottenham Hotspur (Football), St. Louis Rams (American Football) & Colorado Rockies (Baseball). Now throughout time my teams have seen success, but that was in the past. You don't see too many little kids asking for a Spurs shirt " . . . Because they are good!" As such I find it hard to talk about other peoples sports teams, there are just less of us 'non-big' teams.

So I always ask the question "Why do you support them?" and this is the best question to ask. Normally there are a few different responses:

Because they are good!
I like the honesty here. True it does make you a glory hunter and as such you will never now the true passion of grabbing a last minute winner against a side 3 leagues below you in a scrappy match.

Because they are my local team.
Now some of you may be aware of my non-nationalistic views. This boils down to location too. I don't believe that you should just support a team because you were born in/near there. HOWEVER, thank god not the whole population thinks like me, because who else would support the likes of Hartlepool Town F.C. & the Cleveland Browns?

Because I went to see them once.
Not as stupid as it may sound. I have close experience of this option. I support the Colorado Rockies purely because I saw them twice in the States - and didn't even plan it! One of my mates saw the 49ers and that made him a 49er fan (and a idiot - go Rams!)

Because my family support them.
Case in point here. I support spurs because my dad does. Pure and simple. He supports them because he "liked the way they played". It was 1963, he was a glory hunter! Shame I can't say the same now days. I did have one moment of madness. It was 1991, Spurs were playing Arsenal in the F.A. Cup semi final. My dad said that if Spurs won he would buy me a shirt. So obviously, bribed into supporting the men in white I was cheering every goal, every challenge. We duly won and so off to the local sports shop we trotted (Six Way Sports!). Once we were there we found a Spurs shirt, it was right next to the Man Utd one. I pleaded with my Dad to buy me the Man Utd one because he said he would buy me a shirt, did say what team . . . . he saw the light and got me the Spurs one. The reason I was so desperate to enter hell and meet the Red Devil

Because all my friends supports them.
Peer pressure at its best here. Not sure if anybody has actually ever admitted to this being the reason thou!

They play in nice colours.
Yup, great reason! The reason that I am getting into Aussie rules football is this reason. The Hawthorn Hawks play in Yellow & Chocolate stripes! How cool is that? They are in the grand final this year, but to me it wouldn't matter if they were shit - so I am not a glory hunter.

I picked it out of a hat.
I will pick my team that I will support at the world cup next year out of a hat. I used to follow England, but I got so fed up with them that I resigned. I am now "nationless". So I will find a new homeland next year. I will fully get into the feel of my respected nation, get a shirt, learn some useful phrases etc. etc.

There is a chance that I will, of course, pull out England and find myself in some kind of 'groundhog day' nightmare where I can't escape incredibly high expectations mixed with mundane and dreary football and a spash of tabloids trying to derail the campaign.

I have issues!

Take care, thanks for reading and be wonderful to each other.

T
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If Men are from Mars - Where are the Women from again???

Sup guys (and girls)

Its about that time of year for me - Women troubles.

So there is this girl (as is normal for this kinda story to start), and we have been getting pretty close since July. I met her through work, we worked together for a while and then my contract ended so I move about 6 hours away. At first our friendship was really exciting. Like we would be really into each other, then one of us would get cold feet, then the other would. It was proper 'Teenager in love stuff'. Anyway once I moved away we kept in contact. Defiantly texting every day and calling pretty much every night. It was awesome. I really liked her, we would talk about random shit for hours.

So then about 2 weeks ago I went back up to see her. It had been about a month since we last saw each other and was great to spend time together again. Especially because of all the texting/calling I really felt like I was getting to know her so much better and I liked all of it. The week flew by and I even stayed and extra day so we could spend more time together.

This Thursday she had a holiday. Well she went back to her mum and dads to see them again (she worked away from home as well). Now this is where the story gets interesting. He ex boyfriend lives next door to her mum and dad. Now they were together before she met me and they were actually together when we started talking. In the past I have cheated and been cheated on, but thats in the past. I like to think that as I have got older I have got wiser (like an Owl). As such I didn't make a move on her whilst she was with her boyfriend. We talked a lot and there was obviously a connection there but I am a gentleman. She told me that her and her boyfriend were going through some troubles and had been for about 2 months. I said that if she wanted to talk about it then I would listen, but I couldn't offer too much advice as we had only just met.

Anyway, I digress. So he has been over her house all the time she has been home. You see he really didn't take their break-up too well, for instance he still referred to her as his girlfriend on Facebook. I have to admit that I did feel genuinely sorry for him, but I also was falling for her as well. Slowly over this weekend he has been working his way into her again. I don't have any actual proof that this was the case but look at the facts - He still is in love with her. He lives next door. He is really friendly with her mum and dad. It really doesn't take a telegram to 221b Baker Street to work out this one.

Well, tonight I got a text message. One that I had been dreading I would receive. It would appear that it all kicked off tonight. Apparently his mother how now come over and beaten up this girls mother, "and the reason why?" I hear you ask with bated breath. He has chosen to be with this girl rather than his own family. I mean really? You couldn't make this shit up. This is pure gold dust right here. If any hollywood producers stumble across this story and think that they could turn it in to a Romance/Comedy/Thriller/Horror/Action film then I have the copy write.

Its fucking bullshit. I mean it really is. So now she is telling me that we have no future because it has all got too much for her. He obviously has some issues, and I mean who doesn't when emotions are involved. We all have our own way of coping. My own way is to write about it and let the whole internet have a read - Nothing wrong with that. His way, would appear, is to say "Fuck you mum, i'm gonna chose this girl who isn't my girlfriend and is really quite close to another guy and is really happy in her life right now over you" YEA! That will make me feel like a man!

So now, I am not going to get to be with this totally awesome girl who I was falling for. She is going to be unhappy (there was a reason they broke up in the first place, remember - keep up!) and he is going to be pissed off that she doesn't want to be with him and thanks to walking out of home his toast is no-longer going to be buttered in the morning.

I feel that if you look on a situation there is always someone to blame, but I really am having trouble telling who it is right now. A good detective with always look within first. So lets do that . . . . . . . . .
ME
What have I done wrong? Well. There was the fact that I was chatting to her when she had a bloke. I do kinda feel a little guilty about that. We never did anything, but we did talk for a while. Honestly, apart from that, for once, I think I am all quite innocent in this.

HER
What did she do wrong? At first it would seem nothing. I mean she split up with him. She failed to tell him that me and her were getting close at the start and only mentioned it this weekend. I think that could have played a major factor in him throwing ALL his toys out of his pram. She also wasn't as strong as I hope she could be. I was genuinely concerned for her to go back home. I thought something like this would/could happen. She promised me that she was strong.

HIM
Now. Well. Strangely enough I still feel sorry for him. There have been women in my life who, during a break-up, I would move the ends of the earth for if I could. If it meant getting back together with them, then I would do anything. However, I do kinda draw the line at fucking off my family home and moving in with her, after she has split up with me, after 3 months, and then she is moving away again in 5 days.

Now the question I pose to you. Is this . . . . . . . Does that make him a better boyfriend for doing what he did, or does it make him less of a man because he has messed up so many lives?

I mean where actually does the line get drawn between being in love and going too far??? Is it something that we actually have to regulate within our own self being??? Emotions are a strong and powerful thing. There are people in this world who would kill for love, others just settle for making everyone unhappy. Emotions are the thing that brings us down to our primal selves. When we are in pain, we yell. When we are happy, we smile. They are things that we have to control over. It scares me that I might actually be so in love one day that I will ruins peoples lives because of it.

T
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Oh and the comedy part of this tale - He is spending the night, in her room, tonight, so I can't even speak to her about it!!! - Thought that would make you all laugh, I'm having a ball!

I know, I know, I know!

I know i'm late in this update, sorry.

To tell you the truth, I did kinda forget about you, sorry darling. But now I am in a kinda new place in my life. I am not going to explain, I dont have to. If you know me you will know that I am in different circumstances since we last spoke. Now, I might be back for a while, or this might just be a passing visit. I havn't decided yet, all depends on how good you are.
Right, now thats over, on to buisness.
MUSIC (again).
So did anyone used to remember those 30 day music challenge that was on facebook that time? No? Well anyway I decided that I would do the challenge - all at once. WOW! I know right?
So here it is . . . . . . .
Day 01 – Your favorite song - Start with the killer question straight away then. Right well as anyone who loves music knows that your fav song does kinda change over time. Right now, at this moment in time it still has to be
Frank Turner & The Sleeping Souls - I Knew Prufrock Before He Got Famous. Amazing - Go listen now!
Day 02 – Your least favorite song - When I worked on my first job as a Tecchy, all I got requested to play at the late night disco was
UB40 - Red, Red, Wine. Really dont like it!
Day 03 – A song that makes you happy - Aww, I love this song. I really can help smiling when I am listening to it. Really puts me in a good mood
The Boo Radleys - Wake Up Boo!
Day 04 – A song that makes you sad - A song that has been to a lot of sadness in my family is
Simon & Garfunkle - Bridge Over Troubled Water
Day 05 – A song that reminds you of someone - Dangerous question. I chose this song before it reminds me of when I was 18, in my first proper relationship, and life just seemed good. It was the first time in my life that I felt truly content.
The Darkness - I Believe In A Thing Called Love
Day 06 – A song that reminds of you of somewhere - This song I relate to school discos. They were the best discos ever!
Peter Andre - Mysterious girl (17 YEARS AGO!)
Day 07 – A song that reminds you of a certain event - My friend had a party for his 21st birthday. After is we all went backto his house cause thats where we staying. I remember being in a big circle in his kitchen with all my friends singing this at the top of our voices!
James Blunt - Wisemen.
Day 08 – A song that you know all the words to - When I was a kid my parents had a friend who knew all the words to this song. My dad was always a little impressed by this. So I was so glad when I managed to nail all the words to this for the first time.
Meatloaf - Bat Out Of Hell
Day 09 – A song that you can dance to - Haha, Okay so I do this 'thing'. Those who know me will know what that is when they see my choice. Now, I suppose that you could call this 'thing' a dance, kinda!
Natalie Imbruglia - Torn
Day 10 – A song that makes you fall asleep - This does not mean that this is a bad song, this means that this song is beautiful. I love it so much.
Damien Rice - The Blower's Daughter.
Day 11 – A song from your favorite band - So my fav band is Frank Turner and the sleeping souls. I fell that there might be a few more inclusions from them later so I will pick the song that I really like of thiers.
Frank Turner & The Sleeping Souls - If I Ever Stray.
Day 12 – A song from a band you hate - Just pure shit
Jaguar Skills - 9 Levels Of Power
Day 13 – A song that is a guilty pleasure - A true guilty pleasure is something like teasing cats. But I know what you mean by the question.
Jedward - Under Pressure (Ice Ice Baby)
Day 14 – A song that no one would expect you to love - Okay, but for some strange reason, I actually don't mind Eminem. I know. Its weird right, probably a kinda 'I feel sorry for you' thing!
Eminen - The Real Slim Shady
Day 15 – A song that describes you - For where I am right now in my life it has to be this next one. The lyrics really relate to my life RIGHT NOW!
Frank Turner & The Sleeping Souls - Photosynthesis
Day 16 – A song that you used to love but now hate - This is a reason why having 'Your Song' between you and a love one is a BAD IDEA. Because when you split up from them it ruins a perfectly good song, you still feel emotionally attached to them through the song and so it makes it a bad song. I am slowly starting to like this song now, the emotion is going from it. Lesson: Dont pick good songs as 'Your Song'.
Extreame - More Than Words
Day 17 – A song that you hear often on the radio - I don't hear the same song all the time on the radio. Except this catch little bugger,
Jools Holland - Enjoy Yourself (It's Later That You Think)
Day 18 – A song that you wish you heard on the radio - Political now, would be such a WOW moment
Frank Turner & The Sleeping Souls - Thatcher Fucked The Kids.
Day 19 – A song from your favorite album - My favourite album of all time is Oasis - (Whats the Story) Morning Glory? My favourite song from that isOasis - Don't Look Back In Anger
Day 20 – A song that you listen to when you’re angry - One song that can really calm me down and get my in a stressless state is
Afro Celt Soundsystem - Mojave
Day 21 – A song that you listen to when you’re happy - My 'Friday drive home song' always is this one. Such a epic driving song!
Bruce Springsteen - Born To Run
Day 22 – A song that you listen to when you’re sad - Okay, this whole abum is epic. But I think that this song has such a element of hope in it, but with really sad undertones.
The Killers - Smile Like You Mean It.
Day 23 – A song that you want to play at your wedding - This song is about prostitution, but I love it! And it stil kinda would work at a wedding.
Steve Harley - Make Me Smile (Come Up And See Me)
Day 24 – A song that you want to play at your funeral - I have actually thought about this question before, not that it makes much difference, Im not going to be there, well I will but I won't be worring about the music anyway!
Flogging Molly - If I ever Leave This World Alive
Day 25 – A song that makes you laugh - We used to do rock the room to this song on a park where I worked - It got crazy!
The Toy Dolls - Nelly The Elephant. (Best Version EVER!)
Day 26 – A song that you can play on an instrument - I can play a few songs on the Harmonica. But my favourite song to play is this one.
Last Of The Summer Wine (Theme)
Day 27 – A song that you wish you could play - So I am starting to learn the guitar. But I wish that one day, I can play the solo from this. I will be happy in life then!
Lynard Skynard - Free Bird
Day 28 – A song that makes you feel guilty - Guilty? What a totally shit question. I have my own question
Day 28.5 A Song you have recently discovered? What a perfectly good question - Well I have found this little gem tonight. I knew it was there - but never listened to it all the way through before.
Jon Bon Jovi - Always
Day 29 – A song from your childhood - My first ever single I got was this song. It was the theme for that summer. And I left junior school then. It was a really good time. The sun shone all summer (yea right)Baddiel & Skinner & The Lightning Seeds - Three Lions.
Day 30 – Your favorite song at this time last year - And we are at the end. Well to be honest it was probably the same. So I am gonna pick another one of my all-time favourite songs for its place.
Don Mclean - American Pie
There we go, that was a bit of fun wasn't it.
Take care and be wonderful to each other.
T
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